THE FRUGAL FIND OF THE DAY: Perfect Pops: The 50 Best Classic & Cool Treats, Charity Ferreira {$1.99}

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Description of Perfect Pops: The 50 Best Classic & Cool Treats:

Pops are summer’s freshest frozen treats, and they’re showing up in all the best places, from farmers markets to fine dining restaurants. The perfect way to make the most of ripe fruit is by suspending it in sweet ice, but Perfect Pops takes popsicles beyond fruit and juice. With 50 recipes for popsicles in creative, of-the-moment flavors, this book includes creamy pops, fancy pops reminiscent of nostalgic, luscious desserts such as chocolate pudding, and alcohol-spiked pops for adults. Techniques for making striped, swirled, layered and creamy-centered pops dipped in chocolate make this book a charming resource for mothers and crafters looking for easy kitchen projects with delicious results!

 

Accolades:

The book gives us about 50 recipe for pops. Most of the ingredients are available widely. Instruction easy to follow and the pops are easy to make. If you have some kids at home, make them some pops during the Summer time, they will definitely like it. Don’t forget to get them involved. It’s fun.

This book is amazing. The recipes rock, the photos are gorgeous, just an all around comprehensive popsicle recipe book. I went and checked it out at the bookstore before purchasing it through Amazon. So I knew I wanted it and I knew the recipes in it looked terrific! I’ve made the Watermelon Pops, the Chocolate Pops, the Pistachio Saffron Pops…the list goes on & on :) They were ALL terrific.

The recipes are all simple & have easy to follow directions. They are creative without being so ridiculous that you’re having to order ingredients from all around the world. The ingredients called for are all-natural and most involve fresh fruit. The author includes many tips and even sometimes alternatives to ingredients, which I love because I’m forever substituting a recipe with what I “have on hand” rather than what the recipe “calls for”! There are 3 main sections in the book: 1st has recipes that are mainly fruit based, 2nd section has creamy dairy-based pops and finally the last section has creative multi-layered pops, swirled pudding pops & even more ‘adult’ flavored pops, some calling for a little liquor in the recipes Mmmmm…..

Reviews:

Perfect Pops: The 50 Best Classic & Cool Treats  currently has an Amazon reader review rating of 4.4 stars from 32 reviews. Read the reviews here.


An excerpt from Perfect Pops: The 50 Best Classic & Cool Treats:

Table of Contents:

Tutti-Frutti Pops
Lavender Lemonade Pops
Pineapple Pops with Chile & Lime
Mexican Papaya Agua Fresca Pops
Plum Pops with Shiso
Melon Blossom Pops
Hibiscus-Pomegranate Pops
Blackberry–Iced Tea Pops
Balsamic-Strawberry Pops
Cherry Pops
Sweet 100 Gazpacho Pops
Sweet Corn Paletas
Arroz con Leche Pops
Dulce de Leche Pops
Mexican Chocolate Pops
Chocolate–Crème Fraîche Pops
Chocolate-Raspberry Pops
Cookies & Cream Pops
Banana Malted Milk-Shake Pops
Strawberry Cheesecake Pops
Mango Lassi Pops
Creamy Coconut Pops
Key Lime Pops
Pistachio Saffron Pops
Soy Chai Latte Pops
Vietnamese Iced Coffee Pops
Tart Yogurt Pops
Striped Juice Bar Pops
Triple-Layered Rocket Pops
Neo-Neapolitan Pops
Raspberry-Vanilla Parfait Pops
Ricotta-Raspberry Pops
Orange–Passion Fruit Pops
Chocolate-Vanilla Pudding
Root Beer Float Pops
New Orleans–style Coffee & Cream Pops
Chocolate-Covered Ginger Ice Cream Pops
Grasshopper Pops
Piña Colada Pops
Bourbon-Peach Pops
Prosecco–Rose Petal Pops
Sabayon Chip Pops
Negroni Pops
Sangria Pops
Chocolate Guinness Pops

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On Which Side of the Road Do the Flowers Grow?, Wendell E. Mettey {FREE!}

During his years pastoring an inner-city church, Wendell Mettey discovered that God uses even the most blemished vessels to bring beauty into the world. In “On Which Side of the Road Do the Flowers Grow?”, Pastor Mettey shares the humorous and touching stories of his diverse congregation— ordinary people whose lives were infused with an awareness of God’s real and abundant grace.

What readers are saying:

The real life characters touched my heart as well. I loved this book. I will refer to it again and again. It is definitely a classic.

These are true stories of people and how their lives influenced others – encouraging, and helping in unusual ways. Don’t miss this one, you will be remembering these stories long after you read the book, and will want to keep it on your kindle to read again sometime. I won’t delete this one.

You’ll meet characters of all ages and colors; they’ll show you how easy it is to fall into Satan’s traps, and how hard they want out of those traps.

For the very first time I read the end of the story about the flowers on the side of the side of the road.
Perfect, absolutely perfect.

This inspirational collection of true stories about people just like you and me – blemished, imperfect and yet willing vessels for God’s grace, mercy and redemption aims straight at the reader’s heart and never lets go. Be sure to buy a box of tissues when you buy the book because unless your heart is as hard as the Pharaoh in Exodus, you’ll be moved to tears by some of these incredible stories of everyday people doing extraordinary things with the gifts with which God has blessed them.

This is a great book for readers of most ages, and is equally suitable for small group or Bible studies. Each short story can stand alone on its own merits, which means you can pick this up or put it down without losing the continuity of the whole.

The stories bring out the beauty in God’s people and also bring out the essence of a pastor’s heart revealed in the author.

The people in this book are very relatable and lovable. A good reminder that God uses all of us – imperfections and all. This book is easy to pick up and put down, and would be good for a small group or discussion group setting.

This book by Mettey is the best yet that I have read from him. It is a compendium of stories about real people who peopled his life and the life of the church. Wonderful sketches of real people. Not all are saints, but some are and they are all sinners, as are we all. Tastefully done and very readable.

The average Amazon Reader Review Rating is currently 4.6 stars {29 reviews}.

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THE FRUGAL FIND OF THE DAY: Your Personal Power: 6 Things You Wish You Knew, Daniel Speraw {FREE!}

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Description of Your Personal Power: 6 Things You Wish You Knew:

An unusual book about finally experiencing (greater) success.

You know that personal power affects the way we deal with people; but did you know that it affects the way we fulfill or don’t fulfill our desires, and even the way we see and treat ourselves?

Increasing that power makes life better in so many ways, BUT…

This book is also about success, because what better way to focus your power than to succeed at what you love?

These pages are about knowing what to do with the negative feelings that block success. They are about finding and acting on your deepest desire, and they cover those essential ways that support both your power and success.

 

Accolades:

I love books about success, personal power and different things to keep in mind to achieve what you deserve. And this book comes with a BONUS- About Success. Daniel has an easy style and the book is full of practical and useful information. Important stuff that we all need to keep in mind if we want to enjoy our magnificents. USEFUL and practical for anyone wanting to enjoy their personal power.

Reviews:

Stop Fighting Your Weight: All 10 Things You Wish You Knew  currently has an Amazon reader review rating of 4 stars from 1 review. Read the reviews here.


An excerpt from Your Personal Power: 6 Things You Wish You Knew:

POWER NEEDS A SOLID FOUNDATION

This book is an easy read but it may not be the easiest book to read. Taking that final step into success often means facing what has been holding us back; and who likes seeing themselves as less than perfect?

What’s coming is the single, greatest inner-barrier to success, and it can also be the most difficult one to confront. In fact, when some people start reading about it, they want to throw down the book—and get busy, fast.

If this is your reaction, hang in there, or come back as soon as you can. That response says that THIS is what has been keeping you from the success you deserve.

NO FOUNDATION

In our society, we have some embarrassing subjects: a zipper down, a pimple on the nose, our deepest feelings—and admitting that we might be in any way dependent.

Like the man who came in for his appointment to ask just one question: “What can I do to pull my business into the green?” After a moment of silence, I asked, “If there is one person on this planet holding you back, who is it?”
He immediately answered, “My Mother.”

She had funded his start-up, as well as given him the down-payment to buy his house. Recently, she had given him additional money to keep the business afloat and had even taken over his house payments.

WHY BE DEPENDENT?

When most of us were faced with leaving home and going out into that big, scary world, we had a tendency to hold on to at least a thread of our dependency—with a parent or by transferring it to another.

The thicker the thread the thinner the flow of power.
Just like that unhappy man above, those who are extremely dependent can never know their inner power and can never be successful—at all—because it would change the relationship they have with their “Helper.”

They like having someone there when they run out of money (again) or end up without a place to live (again) or need to borrow a car (yes again). They like receiving advice or solace or whatever their current need might be, and their “Helper” likes it too (although their words might sound like the exact opposite).

I once read that the difference between a child and an adult is that the adult cleans up their own mess. Those who are dependent do not. And why should they? Their “Helper” is always there making life easier.

On the downside, the dependent one is stuck with feeling weak, as well as having to live with their continued failings and low self-esteem. They never experience their full power and are left grasping after the success they want so badly.

At the other end of the scale, those who stand on the foundation of complete independence experience the power and success that flows from it.

SO

If there is a thread of dependency in your life, do you suddenly feel like breaking it?

Don’t ! Because it cannot be broken.

Pushing back or fighting against the one who has been helping does not work. Fighting, struggling or rebelling just keeps it all cemented in place.

The way to break free is to know that there is nothing to break. Nothing is even tangled or tied around you. If you look closely, you will see that thread right there in your hand, waiting for you to release it.

The fastest way to let it go and move into your full power is gently: softly say No to yourself when thinking about asking for help. Quietly say No thanks to the usual offers of help. And strongly step into the face of each problem that comes up.

Living fully in that glorious state of independence is about choosing to be your own parent. It is about choosing to give yourself that amazing feeling of being cared for.

COMPLETELY ON YOUR OWN?

Does being independent mean never asking for help? Never accepting any? Of course not, we all need help at times.

But first, if you are unsure about holding on to your independence in a situation, you can use this question: If I ask for or accept this help, how will I feel? Will I feel older or younger; stronger or weaker? Will I feel more independent or more dependent? If the answer is younger, weaker or dependent then if possible, do it on your own.

And when you can’t, these two words can save the day…

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THE FRUGAL FIND OF THE DAY: Stop Fighting Your Weight: All 10 Things You Wish You Knew, Daniel Speraw {FREE!}

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Description of Stop Fighting Your Weight: All 10 Things You Wish You Knew:

This book has 13 five-star Amazon reviews from 5 countries on 4 continents—so far. It goes way beyond the usual weight-loss books by addressing the root cause of failure—that inner resistance..

 

Accolades:

This book has a simple message that carries a profound truth: I have met the enemy and he is me. Finally a weight loss book that doesn’t proffer yet another miracle diet or exercise/diet regimen from the “No Pain, No Gain,” “Just Do It” school

Who doesn’t want to live a happier, healthier life? This is a great book to achieve just that. I’ve struggled with weight loss for most of my life and it’s nice to read a book that isn’t all “eat less, exercise more!” This book dives deeper into the root of weight loss struggles. I highly recommend it for anyone that wants to make some big improvements in their life.

It all makes perfect sense; so why aren’t there more weight loss books like this that emphasize the internal cure rather than the search for the external fix? “Just Do It! – Be kind to yourself” is a message I’d certainly never get tired of hearing!

The book proceeds to explain and motivate that what is needed to counter this type of self-created pain is acceptance that the `being hard on yourself’ approach does not work and instead, learn to use our powers of thinking, choice and attitudes to be kind on ourselves.

Reviews:

Stop Fighting Your Weight: All 10 Things You Wish You Knew  currently has an Amazon reader review rating of 4.9 stars from 14 reviews. Read the reviews here.


An excerpt from Stop Fighting Your Weight: All 10 Things You Wish You Knew:

To release this Resistance (and start keeping resolutions), we have to first deep-down realize exactly how we have created it.

So I have ask, “Have you ever seen a happy jogger?” Me neither. They look so determined, even scowling, with their eyes forward or down and no hint of a wave much less a smile anywhere. Do they behave that way because jogging is such a serious activity?

Do we behave that way because exercising is so no-nonsense, no-time-for anything-but-a-grimace undertaking?

Many of these intense joggers are poster models for the ever-so-popular, “Just-do-it!” approach to weight loss. And, sad to say, their attitude is exactly how WE went about making an enemy of ourselves.

* Warning * This next section is not for the faint or fragile; in fact, children and those with weak hearts should close their eyes. You, however, are courageous and will probably be able to keep them open.

How We Created the Enemy

WHEN EXERCISING, we counted each rep and kept a close eye on the number of sets—so that we could push to increase the numbers, no matter how we felt.

WHEN DOING AEROBICS—e.g. running or swimming—we clocked ourselves, pushing and pushing to decrease the time, again, no matter how we felt.

WHEN DIETING: we took away that wonderful feeling of fullness, and we got rid of the bad carbs, desserts and other foods we liked. And as if that were not enough, some of us forced ourselves to eat what looked all so appetizing to our dogs, cats and canaries.

What did we get in return for all that physical pain and those take-aways?

Nada. We got absolutely nothing but an idea, an ethereal thought, the wispy image of some distant goal:
• Thinking people would be impressed with the new me, but nobody ever was (at least not for long);

• Thinking that I would feel better, and I did, but not nearly better enough to balance the pain and depravation.
So exactly how much was that reward worth to YOU during the last, saga of pain?

Worst of all, when our Resistance to that pain finally began to surface, what did we do? We pushed harder, and harder still, and then critically pounded on and even guilted ourselves.

The way some of us treated us was absolutely appalling, just so we could keep trudging on that already-overly-long-path of pain.

And a lot of us did not even let ourselves celebrate the little wins.

All right then, here is the point: THE HARDER WE ARE ON OURSELVES, THE GREATER WILL BE THAT INNER RESISTANCE.

 

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THE FRUGAL FIND OF THE DAY: The Diet Dropout’s Guide to Natural Weight Loss, Stan Spencer {$0.99 or Borrow FREE w/Prime!}

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Description of The Diet Dropout’s Guide to Natural Weight Loss:

As seen on the TODAY show, this book isn’t about the latest celebrity diet, wonder food, or miracle supplement. It’s about creating a personalized weight loss plan—your own easiest path to naturally thin. While you can lose weight with almost any diet, keeping the weight off is much more difficult, requiring permanent changes in eating and exercise habits. This book provides a science-based approach for making those changes in a way that works best for you, without wasting time, money, or effort.

Dr. Spencer explains why we gain weight and why the fat lost by dieting almost always comes back. He then presents an array of practical weight loss tools for controlling emotional eating, calming cravings, boosting metabolism, and improving nutrition and exercise. In the final chapter he has you create a natural weight loss plan based on your unique set of needs, abilities, and preferences. Simple recipes are provided for weight loss foods that reduce cravings and prolong satisfaction.

What this book offers is a solid approach to weight loss—self-directed, gradual, and lasting—in contrast to the quick but fleeting weight loss offered by most one-size-fits-all diet plans.

 

Accolades:

“Well-presented and easy to understand, this one is highly recommended.” — Library Journal (starred review)

“A slim volume that has the basics of behavior change, and includes all the ones people really struggle with.” — NBC’sTODAY show

“Dr. Spencer’s book presents a common sense, safe, and enduring weight loss program that presents the essential elements of a healthy lifestyle.” — James E. Gangwisch, PhD, College of Physicians and Surgeons, Columbia University

“There are no superfluous words here, just the facts. . . . For those who want to lose weight naturally, safely, healthfully and permanently (no matter how gradually) this is simply THE book.” — Be Healthy and Well

 

Review Ratings:

The Diet Dropout’s Guide to Natural Weight Loss currently has a review rating of 4.4 stars from 86 reviews. Read the reviews here.


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An excerpt from The Diet Dropout’s Guide to Natural Weight Loss:

If this were the early 1960s instead of the 2010s, you might not need a weight loss book. Most people were thin then.
Not now. Even with all the dieting we do, more than two thirds of US adults are now overweight, and the rate of obesity has almost tripled since 1960. So what is behind this weight gain epidemic?

A Less-Active Lifestyle

Our bodies are designed for manual labor and long-distance walking. Many of us, however, enjoy door-to-door motorized transportation to and from a desk job followed by hours of television or other passive entertainment. Such a lifestyle not only burns few calories but can also encourage us to eat more than we would if we were busy with physical activities.

The Fattening Food Environment

Before processed foods became the norm, our ancestors filled their dinner plates with minimally processed vegetables, fruits, and whole grains. Meats were unprocessed and lean. These natural foods, combined with an active lifestyle, promoted a slim, healthy body.
In contrast to the healthy foods enjoyed by our ancestors, the foods on our grocery store shelves today are often highly processed and have added fat and sugar. These processed foods are packed with calories and are so convenient and tempting that it’s easy to eat too much of them. As a result, the average adult today eats more calories than in past decades, with most of the extra calories coming from carbohydrate-rich foods such as sweets, soft drinks, potato products, pizza, bread, pasta, and white rice.
There are ten important aspects of our food environment that encourage us to eat too much.

1. Foods that Don’t Satisfy
Food processing produces calorie-heavy, low-nutrient, low-fiber foods that digest quickly. These foods leave us with loads of calories, soon-empty stomachs, and cravings for more.

2. Highly Palatable Foods
Highly palatable is a term used by scientists for foods that taste so good that we are tempted to eat them even when our stomachs are full. Most of these are processed foods high in fat, sugar, or refined flour. Such foods have become more abundant and affordable in recent decades, resulting in greater temptations to overeat. We often eat these foods for comfort or pleasure, not because we are hungry.
Highly palatable foods affect the parts of the brain that are responsible for drug addiction and cravings. The authors of a scientific study of the brain’s response to highly palatable foods concluded that “overconsumption of palatable food triggers addiction-like … responses in brain reward circuits and drives the development of compulsive eating.” In other words, junk food can be addictive.

3. Calorie-Heavy Foods
While the vegetables, fresh fruits, and whole grains our ancestors ate were high in nutrients and low in calories, the processed foods that fill our grocery store shelves are just the opposite — high in calories and low in nutrients. The result is that a typical meal of modern processed foods has more calories than we need and often too few nutrients. Calorie-heavy foods are believed to be a major factor in the weight gain epidemic.

4. Cheap, Convenient Food
There is inexpensive, ready-to-eat food almost everywhere we go. We have candy jars at work and cookie jars at home. We stock our refrigerators with soft drinks and our pantries with packaged snacks. Just seeing junk food can make us hungry, and food within easy reach is harder to resist than food that requires a little more effort to obtain. Eating too much has never been easier.

5. Large Portions
In the US, portion sizes of many foods have increased two- to five-fold since the 1970s. We tend to keep eating until the portion in front of us is gone, no matter what its size. Similarly, we tend to eat more when eating a snack food directly out of a large package (such as a bag of potato chips) than when served individual portions.

6. Passive Entertainment
Watching television or movies burns very few calories. It also encourages needless eating. If we eat during such entertainment, our distraction with the storyline can cause us to continue eating past the point at which we would normally be satisfied.

7. Convenient Substitutes for Water
Sports drinks, sugary soft drinks, fruit juices, and alcoholic drinks are readily available in our homes and elsewhere. These drinks quickly add calories without lasting satisfaction. Their consumption is believed to be a major factor in the weight gain epidemic.

8. Misleading Labels and Advertising
A picture of a slender athlete on a package of fresh fruit might make sense. The same picture on an “energy bar” consisting mostly of corn syrup and puffed rice does not. Advertisements often inaccurately depict the health benefits of the foods they are promoting.

9. Unhealthy Snack Foods
Common snack foods tend to be higher in calories and lower in nutrients than the kinds of foods usually eaten with meals. They are quick to add calories but slow to satisfy.

10. Restaurants
We eat out more now than in decades past. Restaurant food tends to be higher in calories and served in larger portions than food cooked at home. As a result, one restaurant meal might have enough calories for an entire day.

The Solution

Think of excess fat as a collection of bad habits. Lose the fat-promoting habits, and you will lose the excess fat. Each time you give up one of these bad habits (all other things being equal), you will lose fat until your body naturally settles at a lower weight. At that point you will need to give up another bad habit to lose more weight and keep it off.
Permanent weight loss requires permanent lifestyle changes. The information in this book will help you replace bad habits with good ones and make the lifestyle changes required for lasting weight loss. You will learn how small adjustments in your eating and exercise habits can result in a big difference in body fat over time, why many of the things you hear about gaining or losing weight are false, and why popular diets rarely produce permanent weight loss. You will also learn how to change your personal environment so it’s no longer fattening, boost your metabolism without drugs or supplements, give your body the exercise it needs without wasting time, eat fewer calories without counting them or going hungry, and beat temptation with the willpower you already have.

 

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THE FRUGAL FIND OF THE DAY: Call Me Tuesday, Leigh Byrne {$2.99 or Borrow FREE w/Prime!}

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Description of Call Me Tuesday:

At eight-years-old, Tuesday Storm’s childhood is forever lost when tragedy sends her family spiraling out of control into irrevocable dysfunction. For no apparent reason, she’s singled out from her siblings, blamed for her family’s problems and targeted for unspeakable abuse. The loving environment she’s come to know becomes an endless nightmare of twisted punishments as she’s forced to confront the dark cruelty lurking inside the mother she idolizes. Based on a true story, Call Me Tuesday recounts, with raw emotion, a young girl’s physical and mental torment at the mercy of the monster in her mother’s clothes–a monster she doesn’t know how to stop loving. Tuesday’s painful journey through the hidden horrors of child abuse will open your eyes, and her unshakable love for her parents will tug at your heartstrings.

 

Accolades:

We are carried along, not able to put the book down – not wanting to hear more at times for it becomes almost too difficult to hear – but having to see it through, for we have come too close to Tuesday’s inner turmoil than to desert her now ~ David Lloyd, Virtual Muser eBook Review

Ms. Byrne delineates the normal reactions of outsiders: disbelief, fear of involvement, and the presumption that the child is bad. She also did not forget to detail the after-effects of abuse that continue long after it’s over, and the strange ways they can manifest. ~ Java Davis, The Kindle Book Review

The horror of the scenes is heightened by the author’s simple, straight-forward style… the prose is clean and flows well and the voice is tragically honest without being melodramatic. ~ Mayra Calvani, Blogcritics

A horrifying story inspired by true-life experience…the prose so vividly and evocatively portrays suffering.~ Kirkus

Tuesday Storm’s mother named her two daughters and three sons after movie stars, but what Tuesday’s mother does to her is hardly movie star quality and more shades of “Mommie Dearest”. ~ Alice D. for Reader’s Favorite

 

Amazon Reader Reviews:

Call Me Tuesday currently has a Amazon reader review rating of 4.4 stars, with 105 reviews! Read the reviews here!

 

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Excerpt from Of Call Me Tuesday:

SNAP

1

Mama knocked twice on my bedroom door. “There’s a god-awful stench coming from in there,” she said. “You need to take your bucket outside and empty it.”
At one time, when I first started using the bucket as a toilet, the acrid air in my room had burned the inside of my nose and everything I ate and drank tasted like the smell of pee. But now, after months of constant exposure, I hardly noticed it at all. I was only aware, whenever I left my room, that the air outside it was different, thinner, crisper—different.
I heard the two-by-four Mama kept wedged under my doorknob fall hard, as usual, as if she had kicked it away, but its impact to the floor was muffled by the carpet. Like an angry fist blocked by a pillow. The sound of the two-by-four falling was always the same. Every morning, as I waited for her to come and let me out to go to school, or do my chores, I listened for it with both anticipation and dread, hoping one day it would be different. I kept thinking if the sound was different then maybe other things beyond the door might be different too.
As I made my way down the stairs, balancing the half-full bucket against my thigh, I noticed the house was quiet for a Saturday. When I came to the bottom of the stairway, I looked around, and realized no one was home but Mama and me. I always got nervous when I was alone with her.
Passing the kitchen, I saw her leaning up against the counter stirring creamer into a cup of coffee. She hadn’t been up long; she still had on a sleeping gown and her hair was matted to the back of her head. When I walked by her, she glanced up at me and tapped her spoon on the side of her cup. “Make sure you take it far away from the house,” she said.
“Yes, ma’am,” I yelled, on my way out the door.
Out in the backyard, I found a grassy area under a tree and sat the bucket down. I had learned if I dumped the pee all at once it spread quickly on the surface of the baked earth, and sometimes my feet got wet. Pouring slowly, I watched the bucket’s contents seep into the grass and wrap its rusty fingers around the tree roots.
When I came back inside, Mama met me at the door. “I need some potatoes peeled for lunch,” she said, and then went into the kitchen again.
After I returned the bucket to my room, I stood before her awaiting my next instructions. She pointed to a corner where she’d spread some newspaper on the floor. “Sit down over there,” she said. Then she pulled a sack of potatoes from the pantry and plopped them beside me, along with a deep soup pan. She handed me a paring knife. “Now get to peeling.”
Taking a potato from the sack, I started to work right away. Mama went over to the counter, picked up her coffee and walked back and forth in front of me. Sipping her coffee, she continued to pace the floor, staring at me, her steps getting faster and faster, as she became fueled by the caffeine. I ignored her. Concentrated on the potato in my hand, on keeping the peeling the way she required it to be—thin enough to see through when she held it up to the light.
Finally, she stopped, tilted her head to one side. “I swear you get homelier every day,” she said.
If I had been younger I would have cried, crushed by her words. But in the last couple of years I’d become much tougher. So what, I thought, acting as if I hadn’t heard her. I don’t care what you think of me anymore.
“I thought you might get prettier when you became a teenager, but I do believe you’re even uglier than before.” She paused, took a long drink of her coffee, allowing enough time for what she’d said to really sink in. “Honestly, I feel sorry for you because I don’t know how you’re going to make it on your own. I mean, I always had men standing in line to take care of me, but with your face I doubt you’ll be able to find anyone.”
Sliding the knife blade under the peel of a fresh potato, I tried to imagine her at thirteen, a bubbly cheerleader with a head full of shiny red curls and perfect skin. It was a stretch. She had gained about thirty pounds in the last year or so, and her hair was brassy and brittle from constant bleaching. The scar from her accident, deep and severe, slashed across her cheek like a lightning bolt.
For several minutes, she went on walking and talking and I continued to ignore her. Every so often, I caught a glimpse of her as she passed, but I didn’t hear a word she was saying. The only sound I allowed into my head was the knife scraping across the potatoes.
When I had finished and there was a mountain of paper-thin peelings in front of me, Mama snatched up the pan filled with creamy, spotless potatoes. “Now pick up the papers and put them in the trash,” she said. “I have another chore for you to do.”
She pulled a brown paper grocery bag from a cabinet drawer and motioned for me to follow her into the family room. With her finger, she drew a series of small circles in the air above an area of the floor littered with crumpled potato chips. “I want you to pick up all the crumbs on the carpet in here. And don’t stop until this whole room is clean.”
She handed me the paper bag and I nodded my head, as if I understood her. But I didn’t. I had never understood why she made me use my fingers to pick up specks of dirt and food crumbs from the floor when she had a perfectly good vacuum cleaner.
On her way back to the kitchen, she stopped in the hallway. “On second thought, start there,” she said, pointing in the direction of the back door where there were dirt clods and mud ground into the carpet. “And then work your way up the hall into the family room.”
I trudged down the hall, dragging the paper bag beside me. When I came to the top of the steps leading to the door, I sat and stared at the dirty carpet wondering where Daddy and the boys had gone. Wishing I were with them.
About ten minutes later, Mama came back to check on my progress and found me sitting down on the job. “What in hell do you think you’re doing?” she asked, her voice reflecting disbelief more than anger.
Had it been a year, a month, or even a few days earlier, I would have been terrified of what she might do to me for disobeying her. I would have dropped to my knees and started picking up crumbs, scratching mud. But on this day, something was different. This day I didn’t budge when I heard her coming.
“Answer me!” she shouted.
I didn’t turn around.
Suddenly I heard the rapid pounding of her feet against the floor behind me. “Answer me!” she shouted again, but this time with her words came the blunt force of her foot in the small of my back. I felt a hot pain in my kidney. “I said answer me damn it!”
Out of the corner of my eye, I saw her cock her leg back to kick me again. But before she could deliver the blow, I sprang to my feet, grabbed her by one of her wrists and dug my fingers into the soft flesh of the underside of her forearm.
Looking down into her eyes, I tried to decipher what she was feeling from a facial expression I’d never before seen. I had known my mama at her darkest time, in her deepest pain. And, certainly, I’d witnessed her anger again and again. But never, under the safety of Daddy’s six foot seven inch wingspan, had I known her to be afraid.
“My name is Tuesday, Mama!” I said, twisting her arm, slightly. “Say my name! Say it! Say Tuesday!”
The words had come out of my mouth, and yet, the voice I heard, full of vengeance and bitterness, sounded strangely foreign to my ears. One part of me was entirely detached from what was happening, as if I were watching some mean, crazed intruder hurting my mama. At the same time, another part was well aware of what I was doing, of every detail of the instant: the blood rushing through my head, the smell of coffee on her breath, her pulse throbbing under my hand.
“I’ll call you what I damn well please!” A grimace cut across her face. “Take your hands off me!”
I tightened my grip. “Don’t you think you’ve punished me enough, Mama? Don’t you think I’ve suffered enough for what I did? I can’t take it anymore! I won’t take it anymore!”
She tugged her arm back, trying to pull free of my clutch. “Take your hands off me—now!” she demanded.
Then, in an instant, something—maybe it was the tone of her voice—caused the courage I had seconds earlier to desert me and I dropped her arm like it was a hot wire. And once again I became a frightened child, ready to obey her every command in the same instinctive way I had always obeyed her.
After what I’d just done, I expected her to attack me. This time I wanted her to. This time I’d asked for it, deserved it. I braced myself for the punch I knew was inevitable.
But nothing happened.
Maybe she had seen something in my eyes when I was squeezing her arm and knew if she made an attempt to hurt me again it would unleash all the rage I had pent up inside, the rage she had created. Maybe now she was scared of me.
She looked down at her arm and examined the purple crescents my fingernails had imprinted there. When she finally looked up again, I saw that her complexion was colorless, her bottom lip quivering. We stood face to face, stunned, as if neither of us was able to process what had happened, as if neither of us knew what to do next.
“Get out of my sight,” she said, trying to sound in control with a voice that was thin and shaky. “Go to your room—now!”
Pushing past her, I bounded up the stairs, clearing two at a time. When I got in my room, I shut the door behind me and pressed my back up against it.
After a few minutes, I heard Mama wedge the two-by-four under my doorknob again. All at once, my legs gave out and I slid down to the floor. “I’m sorry, Mama!” I cried out to her, as she walked down the stairs. “I didn’t mean it!”

 

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How to Create the Good Life from Reel Life, Primrose Roberts {FREE!}

Movies use the magic of storytelling to entertain, inspire, guide, and heal us. They not only show us how the world is, but how it ought to be. By exploring the hidden structure of movies, we learn the formula reel life heroes use to overcome obstacles and achieve their goals. We discover how they are able to move from rags to riches, pain to pleasure, and defeat to victory. This approach presents a fascinating new method for analyzing and appreciating movies. It is a powerful guide for people who are interested in rewriting the script of their lives and creating the good life.

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The author offers a new take on the subject of film philosophy, the power of myth and the hero’s journey, and the way we strive to achieve our goals.

The author meticulously guides the reader plot by plot through a number of films, many of which mirror the lives of everyday people. For example the author describes, “Erin Brokovich, fighting to bring polluters to justice.” That film was in fact based on a true story. When we watch a movie there is a shared experience between ourselves and the characters, the story, the dialogue, the action, causing the author to declare about the hero, “When he suffers, we suffer, when he loves, we love, when he wins, we win.”

The author’s newly-published work, How to Create the Good Life from Reel Life, is a brilliant non-fiction exploration juxtaposing the “Real World,” the world in which we live, and the “Reel World,” the world we get transported to once we sit down to watch a film.

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In this book you will find a fantastic list of really good Speed Dating questions, and you will also find out the best time to ask these questions so that the other person does not feel like they are being interviewed.

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Speed Dating can be intimidating but a lot of fun as well. With limited time, the way you present and the questions that you ask are vital. Rather than asking some random boring questions I wanted to get prepared and focus on interesting and revealing conversation starters. With this book I feel ready for the next dating adventure!

This is a good guideline for anyone – male or female – to read. Over and over. Many great questions if you’re out there dating to weed out what you want and don’t want. Also gives many “icebreaker” questions, in case the situation is uncomfortable. I highly recommend it.

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THE FRUGAL FIND OF THE DAY: Did Everything But Think: D.E.B.T., Joseph Lorick {$2.99}

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Did Everything But Think is a guideline to avoiding debt traps while on the path of financial freedom. Lorick approaches personal financial management from a social awareness point of view, using unheard stories to expose the culture of debt that dominates the U.S. economy. The information in this book bridges the gaps between wealth and poverty by enabling all readers; despite their background, methods of achieving financial freedom. A wide variety of issues are covered in this book, such as, childhood influences, marriage, purchasing a home, debt elimination, credit repair and much more. Whether you are 13 or 70, D.E.B.T. will help you achieve financial freedom. This book is just a small part of the D.E.B.T. movement. The purpose of this cause is simple; to strengthen our country by destroying debt dependency.

 

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4.0 out of 5 stars Undertanding Debt, December 1, 2012
By Teresa Beasley (Indianapolis,IN) – See all my reviewsThis review is from: Did Everything But Think: D.E.B.T. (Paperback)
Debt is something that can be avoided if individuals learn about it early. If parents teach their children finances while in high school it will carry over into their adult life. Joseph Lorick explains all there is to know in Did Everything But Think. This 15-chaptered guidebook will help readers learn how to stay clear of debt and how to get out of debt. I am sure everyone would love to be debt free.

Lorick starts with a brief history of generational handling of finances. The book covers several topics such as the different influences that may cause debt, how to buy your first car, when to move out of your parents’ home and the difference between renting and having a mortgage. I enjoyed these particular chapters because they opened my eyes on how to avoid making mistakes when it comes to big decisions. The author’s examples and scenarios provide readers with a clearer picture as he explains different levels of finances.

The author takes a different approach in sharing valuable information by using storytelling techniques along with personal experiences. I appreciated the sample budgeting worksheets that can be used as a tool to start readers on their journey to financial freedom. This was a helpful book that should be shared with high school and college students. I recommend this book to others.

This book was provided by the author for review purposes.

Teresa Beasley
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5.0 out of 5 stars An Untraditional Approach to Money, August 4, 2012
By Darren M. -
I recommend this book to anyone who is either in debt or simply wants to increase their wealth. I am a true fan of ‘self help’ books and have read countless books on finances. This is by far in my top 3. Joseph Lorick’s unique approach to having one realize their financial hardships through looking back on learned childhood habits is simply genius. I loved the book and I would rate it 10 stars if I could!

4.0 out of 5 stars Great Read, September 28, 2012
By Ayrika -
Practical advice for all persons needing to start over again or just starting out for the first time. Shows us how really greedy we as consumers can become. We place ourselves in precarious situations. But, it helps to foster responsibility and the development of a plan for a new beginning. 

 

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An excerpt from Did Everything But Think: D.E.B.T.:

MARRIAGE CHILDREN AND MONEY

The value of family cannot be measured in any currency or denomination. Our family members are invaluable despite any disagreements or small arguments we have with them. Whether we like them or not, our family members are an essential part of our lives. What we can measure is the cost of family. The reason our twenties and early thirties are the largest debt building period of our adulthood is because we are usually building a family. Many of our debt problems began when we were preparing for family life. A small apartment was no longer feasible for our expanding family. The sports car was not large enough for a baby seat and growing children. The old neighborhood didn’t have good enough schools or wasn’t safe environment to raise our children. Our wedding had to be grand and luxurious. We had to take a once in a lifetime vacation for our honeymoon. The wedding rings needed to be the biggest and best. All of these desires come with a hefty price tag and many of us are not prepared to pay for it. Paying attention to the cost of these life changing events can reveal its true cost.
The cost of marriage depends on many different variables. Let’s start with money personalities. There are four classifications most people fall under when it comes to their money personality; chaser, builder, manager, and victim. Chasers are people that consistently attempt to acquire more wealth than someone else. These individuals perceive life as a race where first place is the only winner. This results in more financial risks being taken. They determine their level of success based on the failures of others. They also have a high regard for social status. People like Bill Gates and Warren Buffet are used as barometers of success. They may often be heard saying, “I haven’t made it because I’m still not on the level of…..” People with this money personality will relocate more often than others. Their insistence on social advancement will not allow them to live in one setting for a long period of time. Builders desire to increase every thing they acquire. These individuals may be considered rich, but want to expand their assets as much as possible. They perceive life as an individual race with the goal of beating an ever changing best time. They may often be heard using the phrase, “I am working to expand my empire.” These individual are semi-stable, but relocate more often than managers or victims. Managers desire to manage their earnings to the best of their ability. Income level is not a major concern. They are inspired to advance in their career, but not solely for the purpose of earning more money. Preparation and effort are highly regarded values to manager personalities. They use phrases like, “As long as I do my part everything else will fall in place.” These people are less likely to frequently relocate and usually live a more stable lifestyle. Victims consistently blame their personal failures on others and circumstances. These individuals are not willing to do what it ta kes to change their circumstances. They often perceive life as a fixed race and feel cheating is necessary for victory. You may often hear them say, “It’s not my fault.” They are semi-risky partners because of their lack of desire to change. Victims may complain about their lifestyle, but will not take advantage of good opportunities. These habits make victims a difficult spouse to live with. To determine if living with a victim is possible, we must understand the compatibility of these dispositions. Some money personalities are better matches than others. Chasers and victims will usually have the most difficult time becoming compatible. They are financial opposites and frequently find themselves working against each other. Builders will have the same issues with victims. Imagine one spouse working ten hours a day while the other gambles all their savings away. To make matters worse, he or she doesn’t want to work. Another difficult match for chasers are managers. It is pretty difficult for one spouse to manage the household finances while the other risks all their savings with costly investments. Builders would be the better choice for chasers because of their similarities. They both want to increase what they have but their motivation is different. Managers prefer stability over unpredictable financial behavior. Managers are also compatible with victims because of their predictability. Victims may waste money through gambling, but will rarely take too much of a financial risk. Managers and builders are also a good match because of predictability. Builders may want to expand their wealth, but are usually less risky than chasers. Of course not all people fall under a single money personality, but one trait usually dominates more than the other. Financial personality traits can also be a good indicator of future lifestyle expenses. Chasers tend to be the most expensive partners. Their aspirations for higher status come wi th a hefty price tag. They must have the best cloths, cars, jewelry, and other material possessions even if it isn’t affordable. Expensive travel and social events are also preferred by chasers. The goal may be to increase their wealth, but they need to appear wealthy during the process. Builders are the second most expensive partners because of their desire for increase. They may not appear flashy but do prefer to take some risk to expand their empire. Three bedroom single family homes in a middle class suburb will not be enough to satisfy their long term lifestyle desires. Eventually there will be a request for a bigger house and more land. Victims are the third most expensive partners because of the potential money losses. These people are famous for spending money for goals they will rarely achieve. They take college courses but never obtain a degree. The professors or institution are always the reason for their failure. Victims pay for self-improvement guides but never read the information. They can’t find a job because the hiring manager is always bias. Their lack of follow through will always be dismissed by an excuse and those investments will never turn into profit. This is the costly behavior of people with a victim personality. The least expensive partners are usually managers. Their lack of risk taking may cost the family some potential income, but will prevent frequent bad financial decisions from occurring. Many divorcees never realized they were so financially incompatible with their former spouse until it was too late. Better knowledge of their spouses’ financial personality may have prevented marriage or divorce. We all have certain expectations coming into a marriage, but understanding money personalities help to create a more realistic perspective. Even the most financially incompatible partners can become more compatible once each person has a proper perspective. Money personality is not the only factor to consider when considering marriage What about the family?
Marriages are affected by family members. We all have very complex relationships with our family members and they affect every marriage. Some people keep their personal matters away from family members and others don’t. These differences are often based on the financial structure of each household. There are four financial structures most families fall under; intra-household, multi-household, generational, and total inclusion. Intra-Household families share financial gains and losses exclusively with household members. These families do not consider people outside of their household in financial decision making. Outside family members may receive gifts, but there is no regard for their financial well being. Spouses from this family structure usually bring minimal family expenses to the marriage. When family members outside of the home need financial assistance they will not attempt to assistance. Multi-Household families share their financial gains and losses with som e family members. They consider some family members in their financial decision making, but will purposely exclude others. This behavior occurs for several reasons. The most frequent cause is a strained relationship. Changes in these relationships also move family members in and out of this structure. Some family members may remain a consistent part of financial planning, while other may not. Uncle Jeff may be considered this month and not considered in the future. These families must consistently discuss family financial issues because of frequent changes. They have a wide range of expenses to discuss and it is important to be prepared. Generational families share financial gains and losses based on generation. This is usually determined by average age between mother and child. There is a consistent vertical movement of assets and debts. Siblings will not consider each other in financial decisions, but include all nieces and nephews. Parents look to their children for assi stance as they grow older. The next generation is always the focus and estates are often left in their care. People from this family structure bring consistent family expenses to their marriage. They can calculate how much their family members will affect the household income more easily than others. The reason is because there are a set number of family members to consider. The dynamics of multi-household families consistently change, but generational families are more stable. They only change financial plans based on births and deaths. Unlike the generational model, total Inclusive families share financial gains and losses with all family members. Bloodline is the usual method of determining membership and this practice is commonly found within royal families. Their goal is to ensure all family members are financially stable. They do this to maintain some level of high social status or guarantee a long lasting lineage. Spouses in this family usually bring expenses based on family wealth. If they come from poor families then expenses will be very high. If they come from wealthy families then family expenses will usually be lower. Marriages fail and succeed based on the understanding of these financial structures. When couples understand their money personality and structure, they are better fit for future financial challenges. Credit reports only give people a snapshot of financial habits. These methods are better indicators of long term behaviors. The cost of getting married must also be addressed.

 

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How to Stop Fighting YOU …and lose that weight, Daniel Speraw {$4.99 or Borrow FREE w/Prime!}

Her Failures

After some decades on this planet, I know very well the awful feelings of my own failed resolutions. I also know the pain of watching my mother’s bitter failures with her weight.

It began after my brother was born; then came my sister followed by my little brother. Her problem was not just child birth but that need for food as both comfort and reward; and believe me, she deserved both for getting through just part of another day with three wild, boys and a daughter.

I think what hurt her most was that terrible cycle, beginning with the excitement of having found the next miracle (diet, program or machine); but way too soon, the newness began to wear off, and she had to push herself to keep going; and then push herself harder and harder still—until that final rebellious dive into the pain of defeat (read quitting again).

Though Mom hid it well, it was difficult to watch her self-anger, self-disgust and the overall depression of her failure—over and over again.

That struggle with food has to be one of the MOST CHALLENGING OF HUMAN PROBLEMS.

Right? As difficult as they are, the likes of alcohol, drugs and tobacco can be banished from our lives—but food we have to face yet again, one to three times, day after decade, with no reprieve.

Although my Mother has passed, I write this for her, a woman in pain, and for us, who are striving to change—whatever the resolution. Despite being knocked down, even counted out by those around you, YOU keep getting up and pushing your way back into the fray. I know this because here you are.

Though written for her, this book is dedicated to you.

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5 Stars - After reading this book and thinking through the advice, I shared it with my therapist. She felt this was spot on. My problem right now isn’t with weight (though I have struggled with losing it in the past and this process would have helped greatly), but this advice on how to give yourself more grace in life is SO applicable to me. I really look forward to delving even deeper with this process. Highly recommend this for people who are tired of feeling like they cant get out of a rut – whatever that rut is.

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